Comments on: Survey For Women – what do you need from men? http://local-space.com/survey-for-women-what-do-you-need-from-men/ - an honest look at forgiveness, friendship, love and real intimacy - Tue, 12 Jan 2010 23:49:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Lucy http://local-space.com/survey-for-women-what-do-you-need-from-men/comment-page-1/#comment-34 Lucy Tue, 12 Jan 2010 22:01:37 +0000 http://local-space.com/?p=250#comment-34 Most of all, I demand loyalty. Next I want honesty on all the things that really matter. And obviously I want him to love me(I nearly omitted that because its a given). He needs to see and treat me as a peer - a human on the same level. Then and only then can we get emotionally intimate. As soon as people have a relationship where one is in charge over the other (male or female), the balance tips the boat into capsizing. If you have those things, all the details will work themselves into place. Most of all, I demand loyalty.

Next I want honesty on all the things that really matter.

And obviously I want him to love me(I nearly omitted that because its a given).

He needs to see and treat me as a peer – a human on the same level. Then and only then can we get emotionally intimate. As soon as people have a relationship where one is in charge over the other (male or female), the balance tips the boat into capsizing.

If you have those things, all the details will work themselves into place.

]]> By: Elizabeth Richardson http://local-space.com/survey-for-women-what-do-you-need-from-men/comment-page-1/#comment-33 Elizabeth Richardson Tue, 12 Jan 2010 21:42:09 +0000 http://local-space.com/?p=250#comment-33 Thanks a lot Lucy - that's a valid point. The next question for YOU then would be "WHAT WOULD YOU DEMAND, EXPECT OR NEED FROM A MAN THAT YOU ARE ALSO WILLING TO GIVE"? (Men probably don't appreciate flowers as much as we do so I'm not convinced this needs to be true in all cases but it adds a great new element to the discussion.) Thanks a lot Lucy – that’s a valid point.

The next question for YOU then would be “WHAT WOULD YOU DEMAND, EXPECT OR NEED FROM A MAN THAT YOU ARE ALSO WILLING TO GIVE”?

(Men probably don’t appreciate flowers as much as we do so I’m not convinced this needs to be true in all cases but it adds a great new element to the discussion.)

]]> By: Lucy http://local-space.com/survey-for-women-what-do-you-need-from-men/comment-page-1/#comment-32 Lucy Tue, 12 Jan 2010 20:25:41 +0000 http://local-space.com/?p=250#comment-32 I think you should not demand or expect anything that you aren't also willing to give. Otherwise you have an imbalance that will slowly but surely kill the relationship. I think you should not demand or expect anything that you aren’t also willing to give.
Otherwise you have an imbalance that will slowly but surely kill the relationship.

]]> By: Elizabeth Richardson http://local-space.com/survey-for-women-what-do-you-need-from-men/comment-page-1/#comment-31 Elizabeth Richardson Tue, 12 Jan 2010 11:37:32 +0000 http://local-space.com/?p=250#comment-31 I'll start this one off. The most important thing I need from a man is: Someone who adores me and makes me feel special (he could do that by pursuing me and being persistent, opening doors, spending time hanging out together, connecting with me each day with a phone call or email - even if it's a quick one, complimenting me often, planning dates, driving the car so I can relax, making decisions so I can relax, supporting me financially so I can relax and be more feminine instead of so business orientated, let me know what he needs from me too, be romantic by playing love songs specially for me, protect me, hold my hand and walk on the outside of the footpath, surprise me with flowers or notes occasionally, remember important dates and anniversaries, look at me lovingly - especially when we are around other people, let me go shopping and treat myself sometimes, listen to me talk about stuff without having to try and "fix me", understand how I might be feeling and that even when I feel like crap it isn't about him - it's just that I want to express how I'm feeling. Then there are times when I would really like him to help me too, especially when it comes to business, finances and planning. Holding me in his arms after sex and staying awake for a little while afterwards is something really special, kisses on the back of the neck, staying physically connected when we sleep together - that might be with his hand placed gently on my body or cuddling all night long ... ahhhh, I'm in ecstasy just thinking about it!) I’ll start this one off. The most important thing I need from a man is:

Someone who adores me and makes me feel special (he could do that by pursuing me and being persistent, opening doors, spending time hanging out together, connecting with me each day with a phone call or email – even if it’s a quick one, complimenting me often, planning dates, driving the car so I can relax, making decisions so I can relax, supporting me financially so I can relax and be more feminine instead of so business orientated, let me know what he needs from me too, be romantic by playing love songs specially for me, protect me, hold my hand and walk on the outside of the footpath, surprise me with flowers or notes occasionally, remember important dates and anniversaries, look at me lovingly – especially when we are around other people, let me go shopping and treat myself sometimes, listen to me talk about stuff without having to try and “fix me”, understand how I might be feeling and that even when I feel like crap it isn’t about him – it’s just that I want to express how I’m feeling. Then there are times when I would really like him to help me too, especially when it comes to business, finances and planning. Holding me in his arms after sex and staying awake for a little while afterwards is something really special, kisses on the back of the neck, staying physically connected when we sleep together – that might be with his hand placed gently on my body or cuddling all night long … ahhhh, I’m in ecstasy just thinking about it!)

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